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running about the fact that he didn't have a presidential style. Ron Paul is like a very, like Steve
very, into making sure he has a handle on everything he says before he says it may have been
the most qualified candidate for the job. But he didn't have that stuff that people think is
presidential style. Now my thing is, and Paul labeled or not, because he knew it, and he had
some choices about modifying that to make a difference in terms of what he wanted to do in
life. And put speaking of presidents. He didn't have one, right. We have to, it's interesting. One
of them. They were thinking about building a statue to Bill and Bill, and they were trying to
figure out where to put it. And they thought, well, maybe between George Washington and
written by Richard Nixon, because George Washington never told why Richard Nixon never
told the truth. And Bill Clinton doesn't know the difference. I thought I got all the parties in now.
And I usually try to be careful about that. Okay, so what anyway, now it's kind of like one
example is for those of you from the United States and Canada, maybe seen the show Love
Boat in the past. And you're not. You just don't want to admit it, right. You're doing the cruise
director? Well, that's absolutely a real nice style job match. Okay. And it's, it's interesting. Now,
some people pick the job based on their style, comfort and actually will eliminate themselves
for other jobs because they're uncomfortable style wise, and I'll talk a little bit more about that.
Another thing that comes into it is the whole issue of self esteem. Spend a second on this one.
self image Bob takes a job as a speedbar The concept, right? I mean talking about putting
yourself out of your misery, anyway isn't it funnier? Yes. You know, we looked at this. And
Charlene says, well, that's a lousy cartoon, I says, but young everybody likes it. So how can it
be lousy? If everybody likes it? I can't be sure whether I like it because of the cartoon or
because my brother's name is Bob, I'm not I'm not sure what. But anyway, one of the things
that we think is that the people also have self image impacted by their perception of their style,
people get this idea that there is a one best personality style. And oftentimes, it's like they've
seen people in their life that are heroes. And that may be someone like John Kennedy, or
Martin Luther King, or Roy Rogers, or Sky King. I say that to see if anybody recognizes Sky
King, you recognize, Oh, right. Now, it's makes me feel better, to recognize us things. But
anyway, this idea of maybe your parents, you know, maybe their father or their uncle or
something. But the idea is, boy, if I just had a personality like that person, I'd really have it
together. So what they're saying to themselves is what I have isn't any good. And so one of the
things we try to do, as we try to in this process is get across to people, that there is no best
personality style. But every personality style, the way we profiled on this particular instrument,
will show your natural strengths. And every personality style will show you some areas of
vulnerability that once you're aware of that, you can take steps to make sure they don't get in
your way. So it doesn't become a matter of best, it becomes a matter of knowing yours, and
then utilizing it to increase your success potential. As a matter of fact, anybody can be profiled
on this anybody. They have even profiled biblical characters. Like we know John, the Baptists
profile. And noses profile some if you're really into looking at strange stuff, it's out there. You
didn't know why Moses roamed the desert for 40 years, right? Because even back then, men
wouldn't stop and ask for directions. Okay, moving right along here. Processors life is probably
yelling at him stop and ask stop. But he wouldn't do that. Okay. So what we're gonna actually
be looking at is four dimensions of style dominance, which is sort of self explanatory.
inducement, which is a social style. steadiness was with steadiness, which is reasonably clear
and cautiousness, there are four dimensions, and then we subdivide that into like 16 sub
categories. So you can sort of get a real tight look at your own style. And you can use it as a
tool. And now what we'll do is we'll come back out, and we'll take kind of a real broad brush,
look at these four styles. So that not only do you have a little bit of handle on your own, but you
can bring in and get a sense of where other people are coming from. So that you can use that
in your, in your relationships with them. And in terms of making things more effective, we really
got to reinforce no best profile. They'll tell you your strength and your vulnerability. And here's
a big issue for a lot of us. And I see a lot of people hung up on this. And a lot of kids hung up
on this. And that's the comfort versus competence issue. It's like what happens a lot of
people's lives as we go along. And we're doing things and we have goals, or we want to do
something go along and all sudden you hit a point where we start feeling uncomfortable. And
the minute we start feeling uncomfortable that sort of gets translated into I must not be
capable. You think of a think of dancing anyway. And so what what I want to suggest is that
the discomfort comes oftentimes from style, comfort, or style preference, rather than from
capability. And once you understand that, then you can recognize that if you're willing to do the
preparation, which if you want to learn to dance means you have to sort of take dance lessons,
that you can move through the discomfort and still do it. So we try to really push people on
looking at that, that when they begin to feel uncomfortable. That is not a question of lack of
competence. That may be nothing more than a style issue that has to do with feelings they're
having, which aren't competence issues. I think that's kind of an interesting one. The other
thing we try to point out to people but fear is a poor motivator. And the different styles are
going to have different kinds of fear levels that tie into them, you know, based on the nature of
the style, so if you know what those are and you want to motivate or interact with somebody,
you don't work out of their fear. Okay, Okay, now moving right along. So I said this reinforces
so we're going to be we're going to give you a piece that we're going to come back and look at
how it might apply to others and we got to reinforce this is a tool not a test this the subscales
on this had been tied into the MMPI. And I said a monophasic personality something about it.
So it does have some psychological relevance, but again, it doesn't get into detecting anything
abnormal although one of the statistics suggests that one out of three people need
psychological assistance if you look at the people on both sides of you and they look at it look
okay need a test app now right now Charlene is going to run our pilot you through this
instrument, and we'll see what happens yeah, you will get personalities, Jack got the wrong
one,
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of course, cheese. Okay, you will get an instrument and you will get a magic pen that looks like
brute force. So you will need a regular pen and pencil in a magic pen.
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The magic pen depends on which we do we do metal music, we polish speakers in the corner
is going to concentrate on the speakers in the corners. When we do the age plus, they bring
those little tape recorders and let them go wherever they want to.
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Okay, we haven't found yet. Okay, so I need to give everybody these little pencils, these if you
don't have one of those. Immediately, okay,
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so this is what happens for me when I get to this point. Because some styles will take this and
just have a great time. Other styles you take this will start feeling like this. So on the very front
cover, it talks about when want to get out there too far to squeak. Okay. The focus, you need
to think of a focus for this. So as you ask the answer the questions to yourself, think of what
your focus is going to be. And it can be whatever you want. Usually we do team building, we
have them focus on when I'm in a team, or when I'm in a group. So you could focus on your
work setting, you could focus on a group like this, when you show up in a group like this, or
when you show up at work. Again, take it when I show up with my family. So choose your
focus and write it on there.
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And then beacon on the very front cover where your name is with your regular pen and pencil.
Folk focus, just write down where where your thoughts are kind of go when you take this
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out, if you don't have a good idea about what you want to do with that you could just put How
am I when I come into a group like this as your focus? If you really wanted to get strange, you
could play around with that idea. How am I want to go into altered states? Well, that'd be fun.
Yeah.
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So it doesn't matter as long as you keep consistent.
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Why? society at large? Yes, you can, as long as you know what your focus
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is. And you take it with that focus in mind. Okay. Now, usually, when we do this, just this piece
on style, we usually do this and a half a day or a day. And I kept saying to Jim, can we do this
in an hour and a half? And he kept saying yes, so we're going to go warp speed with this. And
so since we say some, your styles are going to be harried by this. Okay, so the next page
looks like this. And you have a box that says most at least. So each box, I'm going to take a
look at it. And I'm going to say whatever my focus is, if my focus was a group like this, I will say
how do I show up in a group like this? How do I know show up? So I might say, well, I know
show up as humble. So I take my magic pen code in very lightly, because it takes a second
and a symbol will appear like a star, a triangle, okay, maybe a letter. Then I go to the other
side of the bistro, and I say how do I really show up in a group like this? How embraced me?
And I might say, Well, I'm most gentle COVID You probably need to define what it means for
you. Guess it'll have more significance that way for you. And then go to box two, and do the
same thing. How My most How am I least? So you will have one most one least in each box
okay all right so go ahead and finish that whole page and you know it's like you take any other
first choice it's what pops in your head first don't sit there and you know go over it
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you sit there and go over to Miss lunch Yeah Where are you doing here I'm just pulling back
what's next? right so it's not good to copy from your neighbor only two bubbles on each set of
four guys only to one most one list
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out just tear the square out in a graph will appear that looks like this says tally box so now
we're going to take what we did and graph it. And if you notice there's a tailor box there's graph
one that has the most,
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which we had the most while right. Tally box to go off to is the least. Okay, so what I'm going to
do with my back here, I'm going to go down all of my most rows, right? And count up. Hard to
do here. count up how many Z's I had for all the most rows go all the way up and down. How
many Z's did I have in the most and put a number with your pen or pencil regular pen or pencil
on there? You'll go down and count up how many squares how many triangles, how many
stars, okay, when you get that done, then do your lease column the same way how many Z's
squares, triangles stars and how many ends when you get that done, those numbers should
total 24 If they don't, then you made a mistake and usually it's with the Z's or the ends.
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Right just not enough time right now Okay, good. Oh, no, can't fail this remember? No right or
wrong? Okay, can I move on now, if you open the page, you'll see the rest of the graphs that
look like that. And it just so happens, they match what we just did, right? Graph one most