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by the Institute, for people who have, who are dying, or maybe dying. And based somewhat, at
least, how I like to explain it on. Near Death Experiences and related phenomenon is basically
symptoms, how I quickly say it, and she, she sort of stopped. That's funny. And then she told
me that from 40, or more years before, during the labor, on her second child, she had had a
cardiac arrest, and had a near death experience, both with the out of body phase, and then
with the second going into the light or some sort of transcendent phenomenon. And she said, I
forgot about that. I haven't I've got, you know, so bogged down and left, I forgot about that.
And I said to her, Well, then, you know, and not just sort of believing but you know, in terms of
you've had this kind of experience. How do you relate that to your fears? And she said, Well, I
haven't. I didn't think about that. And what I then suggest what I suggested was, I have with me
your Cloudscapes and I said take this tape and listen to it. What you might do is go back in
your mind, in your memory to the feeling or feelings or senses that you have had that
experience, and particularly when listening to the tape just blew it up. And you know, let it
comfort you, we're gonna let it pop you wherever it goes. And occasionally I get thanked in my
work, work and this thank you was simple but somehow quite powerful. I checked on her the
next day, she had died early the next day peacefully. And I did what I sometimes do, which is
tried to discern on sort of how she was. And I had a sense that she was like this, my
discernment was that she was okay that she was where she should be and was in a clear
place. And so I left it at that the next to my stories actually happened relatively recently. I think
actually, just before I wrote it up for preferring I went to the wound, the weekly rounds that they
have, where they go through all of their patients with, with the different staff, the different
nurses, the chaplain, social worker, except we didn't have a permanent social worker, because
they just lost the social worker, which is how things happen. And they had at this meeting, they
had a they had a reporter, a freelance journalist who was writing a paper on hospice, or
reading an article on hospice, and the public relations representative from public relations
department of the hospital, and they were just sort of sitting there, and then explained what
they were doing.
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And they presented a case, who honestly, I never actually got to meet. This was a woman in
her 50s. And she'd been involved in the outpatient or community hospice phase of the
program.
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And so he's known to the staff and had come in for some complications, then went back out,
had a son who was severely developmentally disabled. And she was quite concerned about
what would happen to him afterwards. And he actually had suddenly died of a seizure, about a
month before. So when she came to the, to the hospice in, in a relatively advanced stage of, of
illness, cancer. She had said that she had taken care of everything, that basically she'd say
goodbye, that her issues were cleaned up. And while she would have liked to have lived a
longer life, that she was given her work was done. And she talked with the chaplain, and this
was sort of the sense of it. But for some reason, she was lingering in a sort of semi comatose
state. And this had gone on for several weeks. And I base the discussion, I said, Is there any
unfinished business, you know, why is she, you know, in this particular phase, why is this
phase becoming prolonged? Why, and should we look for it? And the public relations
representative actually took a relatively active standard, she said, Well, you know, she's not
suffering, why do you? Why do you want to fix things? And that's kind of interesting from public
relations. And I said, Well, I don't really want to rush things. I'm perfectly happy that she takes
whatever time she wants for her past whatever she needs. But it's also possible that she is that
there's something that needs to be done and that she's stuck in some way and that she's
suffering. And And actually, the Medical Director popped in there saying, or there may be a
pain issue that we can't really see but that is keeping her stuck in somewhere now, I thought
was very useful to get that sort of supportive comment. And I actually At that point said, Well,
as a illustrator story I told them about the story I just told you before. And God bless her if, if
the freelance writer didn't say what my grandmother had a near death experience back when
she was in her in labor with and it was really very new to me, I think that's kind of neat stuff.
And that's actually when the medical director happened to say, well, I don't believe in it. And
but I set that aside. And I said, one of the things that you might try is the I'd given the nurses, a
copy of the hospice album, they go home album, and I said, you might try playing one of the
later tapes, either the last tape which has a repeated message, or one of the later tapes that
doesn't have a lot going on in it, but just basically has focused 27 A little bit of energy storage
box and, and hanging out in focus 27 You know, whatever, the whatever you need, when I
suggested this to the, to the
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nursing care coordinator. And I got a call at the end of the day
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that she had put on the tape. And she left me a long message on my voicemail, which said,
and it said to put all of her troubles in the storage box and mind you this person was, was at
least not formally conscious. And she played the tape. And she said, it was really quite
something. As the tape proceeded, her breathing got easier and calmer. And she passed away
before the end of the tape. And God guy sort of said, that's a real nice gift. And I sort of thought
I would sort of share it with you and put it in the package on time. There's one very nice, good,
that was this, one more story that I have about the patients on the hospice unit. There was a
patient actually, similar age to this other woman in her 50s had grown children who were
fortunately well and had metastatic lung cancer problems with anxiety, pain. Also, at times,
delirium and paranoia. And her family tried to take care of her at home and couldn't, she was
just in too much pain. And so they transferred her to the inpatient hospice unit, initially with a
hope that she could be sort of taken care of enough and the situation managed enough so that
then she could go home and die at home. But she didn't turn out to be particularly
manageable, and was suffering considerably and was very anxious. She was a nurse, and
somehow this played into her need to control the process. And after considerable delay, that
the attending finally consulted me, after, I think, several weeks of the hospice staff asking for
this, and I said, who she could do, you know, some of her some of the suffering, you know,
maybe from biological depression, and she also has some delirium, paranoia and a small
amount of one of the newer antipsychotics. You know, micro, help her to suffer less than
gamma if it didn't work. So they were willing to listen to me. And one of the interesting things
about this woman was that she was a Catholic, and she said that she was religious, but also
was quite clear that she was afraid and had serious doubts. And this has been an interesting
combination that I have seen, not just Catholic, but but somebody who has a formal religion,
but nevertheless, it does not seem to help them in turn. As of their fears or their real beliefs as
opposed to the observances. She, however, was very willing to accept therapeutic touch from
friends and, and some of the volunteers. So, I suggested that I had some tapes and told her
about the going home series. And her husband actually was very interested. And she was
willing to hear it. So I played some of the going home tapes again. Some of the later tapes
without a lot of structure, and actually offered to do some energy work, and did so while the
tapes were playing, and had some science and the way I did it was I was doing energy work
and trying to, without too much going out, I tried to sort of sense or discern or get some sense
of, of other levels and where her other parts of her may be. And I had the sense that some part
of her, and I have no idea where you would say that is in terms of the astral realms, or focus
levels, but some sense of her seem to be getting clearer as I did the process. But there also
seem to be sort of other parts of her that were stuck where there is some sense that as the
process went on, that this part was somehow clear. And then I finished, it seemed like it felt
like it was complete. I've done what I felt I could do what I felt I could do at that point. She was
quiet the next day, which was actually last week day, so I and I got to report that while she
woke up and had some anxiety on Saturday, she was able to die transition at least more easily
than her family expected. That evening. They in fact worried that she was trying to head for an
anniversary that was about a month off. And the family was quite pleased that she was able to
move on and that the suffering was able to be avoided. How much time do I have? Now the
question and answer period. What I'd like to do, it turns that off. But the story is sort of a big
enough that I have to talk about my private practice. But there are two things that I do want to
talk about, or at least mentioned. And one of them actually is getting into an experiential
exercise, which I would like to to do. Before I get to that. One of the things that I've been doing,
that I encountered in my private practice,
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this past summer was a set of techniques. That was put up by an organization called the
HeartMath Institute. I had encountered it in a book called The Sixth Sense
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by an author named macroscope, who had recommended it. And so I wrote about it. And it
struck me as an interesting complement to to Heartlines has added as a word to the Monroe
work. It struck me as also somewhat similar to a Buddhist, heart centered meditation called
mocha in the TTA. But what most impressed me was that the way they suggested which struck
me as very practical, were suggested was for people to notice what they appreciate, not
necessarily what they love. Because sometimes if you go for a love object. Big Love objects
can involve complexity and ambivalence. But the advice was to go for something that you
appreciate, and then notice the feeling inside that you get rid of that appreciation and to
reinforce it. And in fact, they have a biofeedback device that looks at cardiac entrainment. And
I went and got that device and tried to run me and cardio on patients and I found that it was an
interesting addition to other techniques. And that people could be very calm. They could, in
meditation calm themselves extremely, but not have this heart pattern, this coherence pattern,
and that it could be taught and then you can see the changes. And at least while I did have the
computer, I could show patients that this was going on. And one of the things that I then
developed from that was combining that kind of training with somebody using Hemi sync, a
Hemi sync tape, and then adding the Heart Meditation facilitated by the facilitated by the Hemi
sync tape. I've not taken Heartland so I'm so curious whether there's some major nugget in
there that that I would find really useful. The tapes that the Institute makes, I find much more
useful than some of the tapes that the HeartMath Institute makes. Protect particularly that one
that you made called the heart agenda that went out as a monthly. So I just thought I would
throw that out there because the issue of heart meditations and open hearts and things like
that seem to come up and I thought that was a useful one. But the actual The last thing I want